Now this one’s a little reversed. Why not change it up!? I’m just listing ideas for you to use here. If you want to use the spinner than great! It can help you pick some things. If not then just read my info and hints below for some ideas!
(Disclaimer: Every relationship is different. Testing the waters and communicating is the only way to figure out your own dynamic!)
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Here is a list of things that my cute little subby boy toy slut enjoys… and some of my favorites <3 (apologies for any repetition):
First off….
PUNISHMENT PUNISHMENT PUNISHMENT! Femdom is about the power dynamic. I wouldn’t say it’s all about punishment but it kinda is at the same time lol. It doesn’t have to be hard or cruel but you absolutely have to incorporate it to keep the whole “I’m dominant” power dynamic going! Otherwise it will end up with him just telling you what and what not to do. Which is the opposite! (See #13 below for an easy idea. My funishment wheel too. Panties are a dommes best friend, and a man’s nightmare!)
- 1 being tied up/cuffed
- 2 making him wear a pair my panties <3
- 3 dirty talk (if you’ve played my other games you know I kind of hated it until I got some confidence. BEST TIP EVER: just narrate lol! “You like when I stroke you like this?” “Im going to let you go down on me” “I love when you moan like that” “You want more? Beg me ” “Do you like xxx..and who likes xxx… so what does that make you?… Say it!”
- 4 gagged with my panties (if you’ve never done it we’re not talking like suffocate lol. Yes sometimes I’m rough but he’s really just kind of holding them in his mouth to muffle any noises/words. No spitting them out!)
- 5 pegging <3
- 6 butt plugs <3
- 7 hair pulling (his hair of course)
- 8 edging
- 9 spanking
- 10 teasing by being called names like whore, slut, horny, sweetie, (usually it’s like my horny little slut, my cute little bitch etc. it’s much more loving and fun teasing than like hardcore femdom degradation)
- 11 teasing about how much control I have. How badly he’s just dying to kiss my ass. How easy it is to get him to do things when he’s horny etc. <3
- 12 teasing with a little embarrassment like when I tell him how cute and slutty he looks wearing my panties. When I ask him if he likes taking/sucking my girlcock (strap on). When I tell him what a horny little whore he is dreaming about me fucking him.
- 13 feminization/sissy stuff <3: make him wear my panties, stockings, lingerie. Let me paint his nails, lipstick. I LOVE using him as my dress up doll! He’s so vulnerable and cute! Plus they don’t make sexy revealing clothes for guys and I want my man showing off! (He’s not a beefcake but he’s so macho that he’s so embarrassed doing any teeny little girly thing. It really gets him in the sub space and it’s so much fun mwahaha 😈. I use this a lot as an easy punishment.
- 14 ruined orgasms/post-orgasm torture (keep stroking / playing with his head after he cums.. works best if his hands are restrained)
- 15 chastity/orgasm control (especially if you are going to be apart for periods of time.)
- 16 Forcing him to come up with and list five ways you could domme him. Can be play time or fun-ishments. I guarantee you he has a lot of ideas. And forcing him to tell you can be fun too! <3
- 17 Using my crop to tease him! Gently tracing his body or with light slaps/spanks (we’re very light with it, that majority of his enjoyment is just seeing me with it)
HINTS (READ THEM!!!!!) *
- We struggled, as many do at the start, with the sub saying “Well I really want you to tell me what you want to do” … All you have to do is put on a serious face or grab his ass or hair or tell him to kneel. Repeat that you asked HIM what he wants to do. Maybe he should think twice about that and answer the question. There you go you just did it! You domme’d him and found out more about what he likes! Easy peasy!
- TEASING IS BASICALLY THE FOUNDATION OF GENTLE FEMDOM.
- POSSIBLY THE BEST TIP EVER! Learning to domme can be hard. Text messaging was the absolute best for me. You can take time to think about what you’re going to say. You can keep things vague. You can make him say a lot of it lol. It’s just so much more relaxed than when you’re on the spot. Plus he’ll be going crazy that you’re texting him like this.
- A lot of these can be done in public or during the day without anyone knowing it’s happening. For the ones that can’t a fun little tip is that you don’t actually have to do it! You can just text him about it and about what you’re going to do later.
- Make sure once you are done in the bedroom you practice aftercare. This is support you give to your sub after a scene. After the playtime is done gauge his feelings on it as a whole or certain aspects by talking with him throughout the rest of the night/day about the stuff you had him doing. This is an important part of femdom. It can be very nerve racking and emotional to submit to someone else. Make sure to tell him how much you enjoyed it (Like many sub boys my hubby lives for my pleasure, it’s like his biggest kink, so I talk about it a lot. Sometimes he gets self conscious so it makes him so happy to know that I enjoyed it!) Laugh about any things that went wrong, talk about the good and bad, lighten the mood! Remember this is all for fun! Just make sure he knows you enjoy having fun with him like this and you both keep the love and communication open! It’s all just a fun adventure you two go on together!
SETUP *
A lot of our play starts with him showering and cleaning up. You can shower as well if you’d like or together. But he’s not allowed to touch you! You can touch IF you feel like it. Tease and keep him waiting!
I usually pick his outfit for the night (if any). You can dress up how you please but it’s most effective to be in something very provocative/powerful/whatever you feel sexy in!
Have fun and happy domming 😈
RULES *
If you don’t know from my other games you better go look through them! There’s like 1000 ideas on my page.
Anyway…the standard rule….YOU CONTROL THE PHONE! Don’t let him see and keep him guessing. Unless it’s more fun to show him some things ;) or if he doesn’t believe you lol. The challenges are what they are, blame it on bosswife! If it’s a game without a lot of twists and surprises for him you can use the share feature on the site to start a private game. It will record every turn! Great for long distance, remembering which challenges you have already done, and to make sure no one’s cheating!
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