HINTS:
ACT IT OUT! It can be soooo helpful to think of your dominant personality as a role play or acting. If you can’t picture yourself being a good dominant, think of a tv character or person in your life who would be a great dominatrix. Just think, what would they say? What would they do? How would they act, speak, tease?
REMEMBER: Literally any task can be femdom. If you tell him to do it, and he’s expected to do it, it’s femdom! Tell him what you want and give him a kiss, grab/spank his ass, tug his hair, anything! I bet he’ll jump right on it with a little boner in his pants ;)
LEARNING: Look some things up before play, or include him in it! You can tell him the very first task you want him to do is lookup “gentle femdom”. Have him read you some definitions or read you an article. Maybe look at some clips or gif sites together. Talk about it! Lookup “aftercare” while you’re at it. It’s important you both always comfort each other if needed and keep lines of communication wide open! (If he’s unaware and you’re using this to introduce the topic then make sure you are well researched on it! It’s your job to bring him into the fold and conduct yourself responsibly)
ADVICE:
Most of the ways people get started is with Gentle Femdom or GFD. This definitely made sense and worked best for us as well. This will focus on the following themes/kinks. Worship, Teasing, Orgasm Control, Edging, Fun Little Mind Games/Tricks, Anal Play, Mild Denial, Mild Embarassment/Humiliation, and overall bossy wife things! But in a sweet way ;) He will be wrapped around your finger. If you embrace it you’ll be surprised how much you come to love the power games, especially seeing how much he loves it!
- HAVE FUN! I know I’m insane with caps lock but it’s important. DO NOT TAKE YOURSELVES TOO SERIOUSLY! There is going to be awkward and funny moments as you start exploring! Don’t be afraid to laugh and talk about it! What worked, what didn’t work…. You will read it in every article you research and it is so true….Hubby and I had a great relationship but it has seriously skyrocketed to Ah-mazing. We are so much closer, our communication is so much better, and we have SO much fun. Plus it’s sexy af ;P
- I basically hated dirty talk. (Notice the past tense). I wrote some helpful tips below. Remember what I said about role play like I described above! When it comes to dirty talk… I found it a lot easier to use words of encouragement and praise. “You’re so cute like this, It’s so sexy having you under my control, I love when your a good boy for me, you better not be naughty or I might have to punish you” etc. This teasing was fun and we both still love it all of the time….The humiliation/degrading aspects can still be part of GFD (and we both had a ton of fun with them ;), it was like our favorite part lol) but do it with the same attitude of encouragement and praise. If your hesitant to use words like (slut, bitch, whore) like I was, just soften it up by switching to (my slutty boy/toy, my cute little whore, my horny little bitch etc.) It’s all about teasing, fun, and love with GFD! We were basically cracking up when I told him to put on panties for the first time. Then when I got just a little bit serious and told him he better do what he was told… he jumped right in! It’s all part of the fun and it will drive him absolutely nuts, trust me!