If a couple is just beginning to explore getting kinky or adding some
kink elements to their sexual experiences, it's important to approach
it with open communication, trust, and a focus on consent. Here are
some suggestions to consider:
Have an open conversation
Start by having an open and honest conversation with your partner
about your desires, boundaries, and fantasies. Discuss what aspects of
kink appeal to you both and what you'd like to explore together. This
will help establish a foundation of trust and ensure that you're on
the same page.
Take the time to educate yourselves about different aspects of kink,
BDSM, and related activities. Read books, articles, and online
resources that provide information on safety, consent, and various
practices. This knowledge will help you make informed decisions and
engage in activities responsibly.
Start with light bondage
Bondage is a common entry point for many couples exploring
kink. Consider using soft restraints, such as silk scarves or velcro
cuffs, to restrain your partner's wrists or ankles. This can add an
element of power play and sensory deprivation.
Introduce sensory play
Sensory play involves stimulating the senses to enhance pleasure and
arousal. Experiment with different sensations, such as using feathers,
ice cubes, or silk against the skin. Blindfolds or earplugs can be
used to heighten other senses.
Engaging in roleplay can be a fun way to explore power dynamics and
fantasies. Choose roles or scenarios that excite you both and act them
out. It could involve playing a dominant-submissive dynamic,
teacher-student, or any other scenario that interests you.
Experiment with spanking or light impact play
If you're interested in impact play, start with gentle spanking using
your hands or paddles specifically designed for this purpose. Remember
to start slowly and communicate about the intensity and sensations to
ensure comfort and consent.
Use sex toys
Introduce sex toys into your play to add extra sensations and
stimulation. Experiment with items like vibrators, blindfolds, nipple
clamps, or light impact toys like floggers or ticklers. Ensure that
any toys used are specifically designed for sexual activities and are
Establish safe words and signals
Before engaging in any kinky activities, establish a system of safe
words or signals that allow you or your partner to communicate
boundaries and comfort levels. Safe words or signals provide a way to
pause or stop activities if needed.
Take it slow and check-in
Start slowly and gradually increase intensity as you
explore. Regularly check in with your partner during and after play
sessions to ensure that everyone is comfortable, enjoying themselves,
and that boundaries are respected.
Reflect and communicate
After engaging in kink activities, take time to reflect on the
experiences together. Discuss what worked well, what didn't, and what
you might want to try in the future. Effective communication is
essential for ongoing exploration and the growth of your shared
Remember, the key is to always prioritize consent, communication, and
mutual respect. Take your time, be open to trying new things, and only
engage in activities that you and your partner are comfortable with.
Give it a try
Simple fun for playful adults. Roll the dice, or give the sex wheel a
spin to find out what excites you and your partner.
You'll find the following activities here, are you intrigued?
- Hair Pulling
- Light Spankings
- Naughty Language
- Scarf or Tie
- Sir or Madam